August 8, 2023

I have mentioned that I do most of the cooking at home. When a couple decide to be together the housework and other tasks a single person is required to do are at least halved again for two people. While household chores were traditionally the domain of the stay at home mom, that has changed since at least the 1950’s. Now couples tend to divide the tasks so they are shared rather than assuming one person will do everything while the other lounges. Shopping and making meals are some of the tasks I have chosen to take on. I have been averse to using cookbooks since I first began to cook at age four (yes, my mom loved to tell the story of remaining silent as her women’s group told of the beginner meals being produced by their 8 to 10 year olds, knowing I did the same at half their age). While I pride myself on creating (or trying to) innovative meals I know there are times I get into a rut and cook the same things over and over. Last week I went to the store determined to come up with something new, and with less of an emphasis on red meat. I made a yellow squash soup last spring that was delicious and thought that might be good again. When I got the squash out last night, I realized it was too hot for soup. Knowing Melissa is a southern girl, I instead went online and found a recipe for fritters, of course substituting the squash and altering the prescribed directions.
When I looked online, I found fritters can be any of various types of fried foods, generally consisting of small pieces of meat, vegetables, fruit, or dough. Plain fritters are deep-fried cakes of chou paste or yeast dough. Other fritters can be bits of meat, seafood, vegetables, or fruit coated with batter and deep-fried. Small cakes of chopped food in batter, such as corn fritters in the southern United States, are also called fritters. Fritters can be found in many types of cuisine. The French beignets, Italian bigne, and Greek loukoumades are sweet cakes of the plain variety of fritters. The batter-frying technique was introduced into Japan by the Portuguese and Spanish in the late 16th century and was altered to become tempura (they must not have liked following recipes either) that developed as a mixed fry of shrimps, herbs, and vegetables that is central to Japanese cuisine. The Indian pakora is a savory deep-fried cake containing bits of cauliflower, eggplant, or other vegetables. Fritto misto is an Italian dish of bits of meat, seafood, and vegetables dipped in batter and fried in olive oil. A specialty dish of various local cuisines are flower fritters, using daylilies, roses, violets, acacia, elder blow, or squash blossoms. Corn fritters, consisting of corn kernels, flour, egg, and milk, are served in many Southern homes and restaurants topped with fruit, jam, and honey. This dish has its roots in both Native American and Indonesian cuisine.
Being a meat and potatoes Kansas boy, I tend to fry a lot of my meals. Melissa is trying to eat smarter so last night I made a salad, baked squash fritters, and baked catfish. I grated the squash (a new technique for me) and combined the squash with corn meal, milk, an egg, and Cajun spices. While not fried, the fritters were excellent. The baked catfish was ok, but not nearly as good as if it had been fried. Next time I need to devise a different recipe for the fish that does not rely on the breaded coating.
Thoughts: Part of the fun of cooking is trying new techniques and discovering new styles of cuisine. That was why I canned my pasta sauce and why I decided to make fritters. Melissa also knows this is a way I try and support her, allowing her time to work while I do something I love anyway. Partnerships that last tend to be built on shared responsibilities. This is all the better if you can find something you enjoy but the mundane chores should be shared as well. The adage may be, “happy wife, happy life”, but in today’s Western culture perhaps it should be, “happy marriage, do not disparage”. Act for all. Change is coming and it starts with you.








